As 2019 starting slowing down, so did my mind and my heart. I found myself using social media and my phone is the most unhealthy of ways. I had this almost…habit formed desire to feel connected, all the time. It was honestly becoming very taxing and very unhealthy. I knew I needed to start creating and setting boundaries. I heard from a few friends about Emily Ley’s book, titled “When Less Becomes More”- and it was exactly what I needed.
In this book, she shares all the unhealthy ways she found herself using social media and her overall connection to the outside world. She explains how we have trained out brains to be uncomfortable with stillness. We have this unhealthy need and desire to be connected, to be updated with the constant new. That hit me like a ton of bricks. YES. WHY?
I’m about halfway through the book right now, and currently reading a chapter about what she calls, soul-rest. Soul rest, as she describes, is different than sleeping rest. It’s spending time doing something that makes you incredibly happy- something that you lose track of time doing. This can and does look different for everyone- it could be running, reading, cooking, gardening, – anything. I started communicating this type of need to my husband for the past few months, and it has honestly changed the way we function. In the best way. I was finding myself so burnt out. I would fill my days scheduling, working, caring for the kids, my husband, everyone else, and would constantly forget to care for myself. Recognizing how unhealthy this was, Jerry and I had a real conversation about how we want our 2020 to be. If 2020 had an overall goal and word, intentional was it.
I can’t recommend this book enough- there’s something so validating about reading Emily’s words. It resonates with my mind and heart so very much. If you’re looking to start this new year on a more intentional foot, order this book!